We cannot allow special cases in the studio because it lowers the intentionality and standards that the Lions hold themselves to. It is a slippery slope that at times, especially for me who always wants to see the best in people, can lead to the standards that the Lions set dramatically falling. Guides are also Gamemakers, we have to give rules, set incentives, and ask for feedback from the Lions on our games.
This week, we had a game, given out on Monday. The challenge was that if anyone gets their core skills points by Friday at 11:00, they will get to go with me to the park and play racquetball for lunch and PE. An area of focus this week was how much the Lions want to encourage each other and their running partners. Lions all agreed that if their running partners didn't earn their points, then they wouldn't go either, even if they earned their own points. I felt that was very mature of them to choose that level of teamwork.
They all did a really great job of encouraging each other, refocusing each other, and taking responsibility for their running partner this week. Their work was done well and they were working hard in the studio. Unfortunately, not all of the Lions received their points in time, but most of them took it as a learning experience and looked at it as a hero and did not let victim mentality overcome them. One Lion, my daughter, had a harder time of seeing things in that light than the others. She felt that her situation had extenuating circumstances. Her running partner was ill for three days this week. Lions always have the opportunity to work from home if they are out of town or ill and her running partner did quite a lot of work at home, but not enough to make her points. My daughter felt this was unfair, that she couldn't go when she got her points just because her partner didn't.
Her fellow travelers stepped in and said, “We are not going to make special cases, we are going to keep the standards high” and though my heart broke for her as her mother and I wanted to rush right in, rescue her and demand that a special case be made, that it was unfair! I knew that there will be so many times in life, as she gets older, where something like this will happen, too. She may be overlooked for a promotion after she was the hardest worker in the group, she may get a speeding ticket for going 5mph over, (when those around her were going faster but she got caught), when through absolutely no fault of her own, she gets hurt or fails. As her mother, I have to help her by not stepping in.
On the way home today, I will remind her to look outside of herself, to look at why her Lions decided to hold the line, and I will point her eyes to Jesus (who more than anyone else was persecuted for something that he himself did not do, that was unfair. When we all deserve death, he rose above and gave us eternal grace.) I will hug her, tell her I’m proud of her for standing up for what she believed in, that Monday is a new day, and remind her that in the grand scheme of her life, this is really just a small thing. That how she handles those unfair moments, (whether with grace and determination or self-pity and contempt) is truly what will make her successful in life. But mostly, I will tell her I love her.